Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love.
Osho (via fawun)
Just to note…most people have to learn from and evolve from immature kinds of love to recognize and grow into the mature kind. The wisdom and mindset and worldview to reach this mature kind of love is not universal…it’s rarely taught…and the messages we get from society and peers tend to emphasize its opposite.
While I agree with this quote…I think it’s important to leave any sense of shame completely out of this. Learning that the way we were taught to perceive and act in love is wrong should not be a source of shame…that wasn’t your fault. Few people are around to teach you this. And even recognizing this is just a first step. Changing one’s viewpoint and approach to love takes time, takes effort, and can be full of stumbles. If the people around you don’t understand this mature kind of love either, that makes it even harder.
Just wanted to try to pull any kind of shaming out of this…I don’t think that’s the intent of the quote.
Please take a moment to watch this. A video has not moved so as strongly as this since that really popular Charlie Chaplin video that went around.
You should watch this. You should watch all of this. Right now.
(quasi-relevant rant follows)
Though as far too many people know, love isn’t always present. There are people in this world where cruelty, zeal, indifference, apathy, lust, greed, rage, or more overwhelm the place within them where love, kindness, respect, and decency should be. Destruction and devastation and tragedy happen in their wake.
Love isn’t always present. And some may ask “where was love when I needed it? Where was someone who cared when I needed help? Love failed me when I was hurting the most,” and I wish I had calming, soothing answers that set all things right…but I do not.
This is not a just existence…too much tragedy destroys any theory of consistently applied karma this side of life…but this is not an unjust existence either, with the deck stacked always against us. This existence is what we all collectively make of it. And where we bring love and caring and kindness and understanding to ourselves and others, we shift life in favor of blossoming and healing.
And we need that blossoming in the world. We need that healing. We need to pursue that ideal, and find the love spoken of here, for far too many have been scarred by those devoid of love.
We speak of politics as our savior, or perhaps religion, but without sincere love and caring these things are just as empty and scarring as the individuals who lack them as well, and we know from history, past and present, how easy it is within these systems for dogma and doctrine and zeal to kick love and acceptance and understanding out the door and treat it as a leper.
Love can change the world. It can do even greater. And that can seem absurd or daunting…but a single act, reaching out to a single person, is enough to change everything. Each person carries their own world with them. Love extended to the mourning, to the wounded…to those raped, or abused, or bullied, or ill, or struggling in any way, doesn’t just change the world…it changes many worlds, each of their worlds.
I don’t wish to say we have a duty to love, for love is not obligation, but opportunity, and beyond that, joy. So do you want to change worlds? Become a student of love, empathy, and understanding.
Never give up; No matter what is going on, never give up. Develop the heart; Too much energy in your country Is spent developing the mind, Instead of the heart. Develop the heart. Be compassionate; Not just with your friends, But with everyone. Be compassionate. Work for peace; In your heart, And in the world. Work for peace. And I say again, Never give up. No matter what is going on around you, Never give up.Dalai Lama (via elige)
‘I love you’ means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. ‘I love you’ means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me.Jonathan Safran Foer (via halgian)
They don’t need to be sent away to a crazy house. They don’t need doctors or people being mad at them. All they need is support. They need someone that will be there no matter how hard they try to push them away. They need a light in the suffocating darkness. They need a friend.